Separation anxiety is one of the most common behavioural issues in pet dogs. In fact it is thought that up to half of the population struggle with it.
Separation anxiety is effectively a dog having a panic attack when they are left alone, often resulting in destructive behaviours, excessive vocalising, having accidents, trying to escape, or even causing physical harm to themselves.
The biggest question I get asked is: Can separation anxiety be cured?
The short answer is: While separation anxiety may not always be completely "cured," it can often be significantly managed and improved to the point where it no longer disrupts your dog's quality of life—or yours. Let’s explore how this is possible.
Understanding Separation Anxiety
Dogs are social animals, and their bonds with humans are deep. Some dogs develop separation anxiety due to traumatic experiences, lack of proper socialisation (lockdown is a good example of this!), changes in their routine (such as a house move or the loss of a family member), or genetic predispositions. The main thing to know is it's never your fault!
The key to addressing separation anxiety lies in recognising that it stems from fear, not stubbornness or a desire to misbehave.
Steps Towards Improvement
1. Gradual exposure to alone time
I'm sure you've been told to just leave them alone and 'they'll get over it', but unfortunately that couldn't be further from the truth. If you have an intense fear of flying and are put on a long-haul flight every day would you 'get over it'.. or would you just be a permanent nervous wreck..?
The cornerstone of managing separation anxiety is helping your dog to avoid going into panic mode when alone ever again. This means that we have to find ways to stop leaving them for too long. Otherwise, to answer the initial question, separation anxiety won't be 'cured'.
Once absences have stopped you should start with very short absences, depending on your dog's level of anxiety this may mean being alone in a room with you next door, or just you approaching the front door without leaving. Once they are showing signs of boredom you would gradually increase the time.
It is also not necessary, or even advisable, to try and distract your dog with food during training. I know a lot of articles focus on using enrichment such as Kongs or chews to try and make absences more positive, but in fact we can 'poison' your dog's enrichment by doing this, i.e. making it another scary cue like keys or shoes.
TIP: To aid in this, avoid triggering your dog’s anxiety with signals that you are about to leave, like grabbing keys or putting on shoes.
2. Enrichment and Engagement
However, providing your dog with stimulating activities when you are around does reduce general anxiety. So it is a good idea to do this before you leave them alone to expend energy and calm them down. This will set them up for a successful training session. I have a whole article on this if you want some tips on enrichment for your dog - https://www.rachaelclairedogbehaviour.co.uk/post/create-a-calmer-happier-dog
3. Don't confine them
Confining dogs with separation problems doesn't make them feel 'safe and secure', in fact it can make them panic more. Their phobia of being alone is very real to them, so being trapped in a small space with it would only make them want to escape more. Give your dog as much freedom as you can during training, ideally having free rein of the house. If you're thinking 'but they bark loudly/are destructive/have accidents' remember that that is when your dog is in panic mode, and with the right training they won't be pushed to that point again.
The Role of Professional Help
Behaviourists
Certified Behaviourists experienced in separation anxiety issues can provide tailored strategies and support. They may identify triggers you hadn’t considered and suggest specific desensitisation techniques to help your dog. They will also liaise with your vet so that you are supported from all angles. If you are looking for this kind of support check out my services page: https://www.rachaelclairedogbehaviour.co.uk/separation-anxiety
Veterinary Support
In severe cases, veterinarians may recommend anti-anxiety medications to help manage your dog’s stress. Your vet should always be in the loop about any behavioural issues as they are often medically driven. Having them on your side is paramount to the recovery process.
Can It Be Cured?
While some dogs overcome separation anxiety entirely, others may always have a predisposition toward anxious behaviour. However, with consistent effort, most cases can be managed to a point where symptoms are minimal or rarely displayed.
What’s crucial is understanding that every dog is unique. Patience, persistence, and empathy are key to helping your dog. Even if a “cure” isn’t possible, increasing your dog's tolerance of alone time is doable with commitment.
Final Thoughts
Separation anxiety doesn’t have to define your dog’s life—or your relationship with them. With the right approach, the overwhelming majority of dogs can lead happier, calmer lives, even when alone. So there really is no need to feel defeated or hopeless, you can get your freedom back with the right help.
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